When an opportunity is given, the certain thing that comes with it is expectation. But the result of the opportunity can lead to 2 possibilities, either happiness, or psychological burden. There are 2 examples to talk about this issue. One is that 18-year-old player Antonio Moric was promoted to practice with U23 Vietnam, and then quickly eliminated after a few days of evaluation. Two is the story of coach Vu Tien Thanh talking about the player being included in the preliminary list of the national team, and then finally not being called up.
Somewhere it is said that Moric's job is a "temporary step backwards", an "opportunity to look back at himself". But the reality is that he hasn't had time to move forward, so what is there to step back on!? When time is not long enough, experience is not deep enough, hasty conclusions about expertise easily lead to judgments from a negative perspective.
With the story of focusing players for the national team, the process is not wrong, but from an emotional perspective, it's like raising them up and then releasing them freely. Expectations are created, but not accompanied by a subtle enough implementation. Two stories, one point in common, show that we often create expectations faster than the ability to control the consequences.
Life also witnesses many similar things. From new employees joining the company to someone setting a goal to lose weight quickly, or a promise, a plan, issued when emotions are high, but lacking preparation to go to the end.
Expectations, placed correctly, are motivation. But placing them at the wrong time or in the wrong way will become pressure. More dangerously, it creates psychological loops. People start to doubt themselves, not because they are weak, but because they fall into an inappropriate test.
With professional sports, experimentation is necessary, but it does not mean pushing athletes into an environment beyond their adaptability and then requiring them to prove it immediately. Social life is also the same. No one grows up after just being given a great opportunity.
After all, the issue is not whether to create expectations or not, but how to start, how to handle based on any developments of the story. When expectations are no longer motivation, it becomes a test, and the biggest disadvantage is often not the creator of it.
