When entering married life - an environment completely different from when in love - differences in habits, lifestyle, behavior and new life values begin to appear clearly. If these differences are not prepared in advance, they can quickly turn into conflicts.
Psychologist Chu Thi Thao - NHC Vietnam Center for Psychology and Human Development - believes that there are four minimum factors that a couple needs to clearly establish together before deciding to get married.
1. Understand yourself and your partner
A person who does not really understand himself will find it difficult to understand another person. Understanding each other's personality, strengths, weaknesses, needs and expectations is the foundation for sharing and tolerance in married life.
2. Similarities in values and concepts of life
Marriage is not only a connection between two individuals but also a unity in fundamental values such as loyalty, responsibility, independence, gender roles in the family, ... Deep differences in life views can cause prolonged stress.
3. Unifying financial views
Money is one of the common causes of marital conflicts. The couple needs to be clear in dividing financial responsibilities, consumption, savings and investment.
4. Consensus in parenting children
viewpoints on education, the role of parents and expectations for children need to be discussed early to avoid conflicts when the family has a new member.
Love can come quickly, but marriage requires understanding and willingness to spend a long time together. The important thing is that both of them are mature enough to understand each other, understand each other and move forward together.
