In many families today, children grow up not only with homework and exams but also bearing on their shoulders invisible pressures from comparisons, expectations and the desire for "children to be better than others" from parents.
These pressures may not be noisy, but over time they will greatly affect children's emotions, psychology, and long-term development.
Psychologist Mai Viet Duc - Nhan Hoa Viet Psychological Consulting and Therapy Center - offers some recommendations to help parents reduce invisible pressure and create a healthy development environment for their children.
Don't compare your child to others
Each child has their own abilities, speed and strengths. Parents comparing them to other people's children only makes children more doubt their self-worth and become self-conscious instead of exploring and developing themselves.
Replacing expectations with companionship
Children will develop best when they feel accompanied by their parents, listened to, recognized and have the right to wrongdoing.
Parents should choose to stand shoulder to shoulder with their children as a guide, not as someone who imposes a destination.
Parents also need to be cared for
Currently, the pressure of raising children is not only placed on children but also weighs heavily on adults. Therefore, each parent should take time to rest, share and seek support when needed, because only when adults are safe can children grow up in happiness.
According to expert Mai Viet Duc, raising children is not a race for achievements but a long journey that requires understanding, patience and proper love. When pressure is removed, children have the opportunity to develop comprehensively both intellectually and emotionally.
