Love for a long time is easy... boring?
Many couples have been in love for many years but have broken up when they have only one step left to get married. Not because they are out of love, but because their emotions are gradually cooling down - a phenomenon called "love".
Ms. Hoang Linh and Mr. Minh Tuan (Hanoi) have been together for 7 years and have planned to get married. However, after a period of living together, they gradually realized that the gap between the two was getting bigger.
"We are no longer excited to meet each other, just trying to maintain this relationship to avoid arguing," Ms. Hoang Linh shared.
Efforts to preserve affection gradually become silent endurance. In the end, both decided to break up gently, without any noise as a way to free themselves.
As for Ms. Quynh Anh and Mr. Duc Hao (Vinh Phuc), after 4 years together, they also went through a period of limited emotions. However, they did not choose to break up but tried to maintain their relationship through small actions: talking, creating surprises, traveling together.
"There are times when we are tired, but we all understand that love needs to be nurtured every day," said Mr. Duc Hao.
Love is not necessarily over
According to psychologist Bui Thi Hai Yen - Director of NHC Vietnam Psychotherapy Center, feeling bored with love does not mean losing your feelings.
If you are bored with love, dont rush to conclude that love is over. Try to talk openly to each other, find out the cause and together renew the relationship'', said expert Hai Yen.
To overcome the period of boredom in love positively, experts advise couples to give each other time, patiently change habits and learn to understand each other.
Change emotions and habits takes time. Be patient with yourself and your partner during this process. Try to put yourself in the shoes of the other person to understand their thoughts and emotions. Understanding will help both of you get closer and overcome difficulties together, said the expert.
