In Asian culture, eye contact is still the door chosen by many families for their children to find a suitable match. But whether traditional or modern, the initial impression still carries a great deal of weight. And sometimes, just a few unintentional acts can make you fall points in the eyes of the other person.
Lack of communication skills, mistakes that cause the fastest loss of points
People dont seek perfection at first, they seek safety at conversation, says Dr. Hannah Morris, a behavioral psychologist at the University of Toronto. Lack of heart in communication often makes the other person feel taken lightly.
Small seemingly acts such as constantly answering the phone, speaking in between, showing off too much space or just revolving around yourself... all create the feeling that the other person is just an "unwilling audience". Many people also make frequent interview mistakes, asking about income, family, and assets even when they are not close enough. This makes the conversation heavy and makes you less sophisticated.
Lack of preparation, small details but talk a lot about people
Reckless dressing, being late, or coming to the meeting without knowing anything about the other person... are all signs that you do not take the appointment seriously. A person who takes time to prepare will send a message that they respect the opportunity to connect, says Dr. Morris. superstition often signals the ability to maintain an unpermanent relationship.
Preparing a comfortable spirit, neat clothes, and a polite attitude are basic things that many people take lightly. In the eyes of the other person, meticulousness does not lie in expensive appearance, but in the awareness you have for that meeting.
Eye-catching is not a competition, nor is it a review. But it was a moment for two strangers to evaluate whether they could move forward together. When you come with a sincere attitude, know how to listen, respect and know how to keep yourself properly, the chance of a serious relationship will be much higher. First impressions don't make a whole decision, but they are certainly an important first step for the two to want to see each other a second time.
