Talking to Lao Dong, Dr. Pham Thi Thuy - lecturer at the Ho Chi Minh City branch of the National Academy of Public Administration, psychological consultant at the Ho Chi Minh City Women's Cultural House - said that women becoming more independent, both mentally and financially, is a factor that makes some people want to have children without getting married.
"Family is an important core of society, society only develops when the family is sustainable and happy. Some women do not want to get married but give birth on their own, which can affect the traditional values of marriage and family in Vietnamese culture.
The question is whether such deprived families bring happiness to individuals in particular and to society as a whole? I doubt that. I doubt that the number of people who proactively give birth without getting married and create a happy life for both mother and child is not much".
Experts point out that when women choose to give birth alone, they will have their own difficulties, and their children are likely to face psychological consequences.
In addition, the situation of women raising children without getting married also leaves many consequences for society, such as the health system and the social welfare system under great pressure.
Through experience in consulting and researching documents, Dr. Pham Thi Thuy affirmed that even if the mother has money, time and good parenting skills, there are still many problems that can arise from the lack of a father by her side.
"Children born into a fatherless family may face some problems. Firstly, the absence of a father in the family causes a very important emotional lack that mothers can never replace. That is the affection, presence, care and impact of the father in daily communication and behavior. It will be a lack that children without a father will have to accept. In this case, mothers should let their children be close to their grandparents, uncles, or men in a family relationship.
Second, as he grows up, the child will see his family differently from other families. Children need to be taught, shared and clarified by their mothers about these problems early. However, there are mothers who do not clearly tell their children about the choice of not getting married, leading to feelings of disappointment, inferiority, and inferiority to their children. From there, children will be afraid to communicate, leading to psychological instability".
Ms. Pham Thi Thuy mentioned the fact that the lack of psychological stability of children lacking love from their mother or father can create psychological problems, psychological disorders, even rebellion and crime in their teenage years.
"The role of a father and a mother in raising children is a parallel role, both necessary for the development of children. Sometimes, children who grow up in a family without a father will have other thoughts about marriage, no longer value the value of marriage, and later repeat the family model as their mother did," the expert predicted.
