In the morning, the husband asks: "What to eat?" The wife replies: "Anything is fine." In the evening, the wife asks: "Do you want to watch a movie?" The husband replies: "It's up to you." The two are polite with each other like colleagues in the other room.
There is a man who has lived with his wife for more than ten years. One day, sitting in a coffee shop, he sighed: "My house is too peaceful now. It's so peaceful that I went on a three-day business trip, and when I got home, the dog looked at me and thought for a few seconds before realizing it." Love life is often not dead because of storms, but dead because of too few waves.
Humans are very strange. When you first fell in love, just need the other person to text "What are you doing?" and your heart would be beating like a phone to set it to strong vibration mode. And when you've been together for a long time, the only text message in a day might be: "Help me buy a bottle of dishwashing liquid." A female colleague recounted that she and her husband were so gentle that they didn't argue for many years. Seemingly ideal, but then she confessed: "Don't argue because I don't even bother to talk much anymore". It sounds light but sad like a coffee shop playing Trinh music in the rain.
In fact, peace is not the fault. It's just that people like the feeling of being cared for, being surprised, seeing their emotions alive. Many couples now live next to each other like two people renting a shared apartment. Meeting at the toilet door in the morning, meeting each other through the phone light. One person lies watching clips teaching beauty, teaching cooking, the other watches news, the world of football. Occasionally turning to ask a very humane question: "Where is the phone charger, honey?" Then the day ends.
Once, you saw an old couple arguing in the park. The old woman blamed the old man for walking slowly. The old man grumbled because she cooked unfinished vermicelli. The two talked back and forth very enthusiastically. But when the old woman lost her foot, the old man immediately picked her up and shouted: "What kind of walking is this!" It sounds fierce, but in that scolding there is something warm that many young couples now lack.
It turns out that sometimes a little sulking, a little grumbling, a little "uncomfortable" is a sign that people still care about each other. Love does not need to be tsunami-like every day. But it cannot always stand still like a paused TV screen. People need small things to see that life still has its taste. A evening inviting each other to eat a new dish. An unannounced trip. A random joke. Or simply walking on the street, texting: "Suddenly miss you".
Many people think that the secret to keeping a marriage is to avoid arguing. Not really. The secret is sometimes not to let life cool down to the point of having nothing to argue about. Because the most frightening thing in a relationship is not the sound. But the prolonged silence to the point of hearing the sound of emotions falling asleep.
