Money is easy to pay, because it has a specific number. You borrowed 500,000 from me, I remember clearly, you remember clearly, pay it back and you're happy, I'm relieved. But you gave me a place to stay for one night when I lost my house, you brought congee until I was lying in the hospital, you didn't give me money, but gave me an un judgemental look when the crowd looked at me cold, that could not be expressed in numbers and paid in money.
Also because it is difficult to repay, gratitude often becomes a debt. Some people are gracious but grateful, live more properly, and try harder. But there are also people who are grateful but afraid, because they see themselves as small, inferior, and in debt. And then instead of remembering, they turn their backs, pretend to forget, or worse, deny. In their hearts, that favor became something that made them ashamed because they had to rely on someone. But in the hearts of those who have helped, it turns into a silent scratch.
Money makes people understand, but grace is the real revealing of personality. You may be rich, but when someone is in trouble, do you bow down and give your hand? And if you are the one being helped, do you know how to say a good thank you, or just feel "under pressure"?
In love, love can melt, friendship can fade, but true affection is not that easy. People get married for love, then divorce because they are out of emotions. But people can still cook each other a bowl of congee when needed, not because they are no longer in love, but because they have owed each other a good life.
So, if you owe someone a favor, don't worry about finding a way to " repay" it in kind. Live well, live beautifully, live so that people do not feel regretful for the time they have given you a hand. And if you are carrying an unnamed favor, be grateful that life owes you an immeasurable thing.
If I have no money, I will pay it back. But lacking in charity, not everyone with money can buy it back. Some people only give you one meal, but you can't forget the feeling of fullness in a hungry time. And someone just asked me the question: " why not?" right when you thought no one missed you.
Confidence is the only thing in life that when you know you still owe, it means you are still a good person.
