In love life, the three words "I love you" or "I love you" always carry a special emotional weight. However, from the perspective of mental health experts, sustainable relationships are not built from flowery words, but from simple actions repeated every day.
According to psychologist Sara Kuburic, currently working in the US, long-term relationships develop strongly thanks to consistent care. She believes that the intensity of initial emotions can create attraction, but it is the habits of silent care that help the two people maintain bond over time.
Consistent action creates emotional safety
Loving words can bring a feeling of immediate peace of mind. However, if there is no support and respect in everyday life, those words gradually become meaningless. Kuburic emphasizes that love is most clearly expressed through attentive listening, respecting opinions and accepting the boundaries of the other person.
A simple question like "How was your day?" after a long tiring day, or a sincere compliment about your efforts at work, can help your partner feel recognized and appreciated. In particular, accepting when the other person says "no" is seen as a sign of emotional maturity and mutual respect.
Psychological studies of relationships show that emotional safety is formed from repeated positive interactions. When a person feels listened to and not judged, trust will gradually be strengthened.
Boundaries, the silent foundation of intimacy
Establishing and respecting personal boundaries may not be romantic, but it is a core factor in maintaining long-term intimacy. According to Kuburic, forcing decisions or ignoring limits can create emotional distance over time.
Conversely, small gestures such as buying favorite food, waiting for each other to come home late, or a surprise hug all send a message: “You are important to me”. Even when conflict occurs, the attitude of solving problems together instead of trying to win also reflects the level of commitment and respect in the relationship.
Love, therefore, is not only in what we say, but is proven by what we do every day. It is these seemingly trivial things that are the foundation for a lasting bond.
