Those compliments may seem positive, but behind them is invisible pressure that makes many women live in a state of constant fatigue. At the agency, they strive to be highly appreciated, to affirm that they are not inferior to men. At home, they continue to take care of meals, take care of their children's education, and manage every small detail, from the belongings to the emotions of each member. The question is: is it the concept of good things that is making women exhausted in their own lives?
When women put all their love in their family, but forget themselves
The story of Ms. Le Thu Huong (Hanoi) is a typical example of this reality. The gentle, devoted woman, who had never complained once, burst into tears for a reason that even she could not explain: her child poured a glass of water.
During her 8 years as a mother, Ms. Huong has almost never had a proper day off. Early in the morning, I wake up early to prepare breakfast, take my children to school, go back to work, pick them up in the afternoon, have dinner, clean and attend school. Husband comes home from work late and rarely helps. But she doesn't blame anyone, or complain, because she believes that "a good wife has to be careful like that". And so, she quietly tries every day. Then, her patience broke in a seemingly harmless moment. The cup of water broke, and she burst into tears like a child. She doesn't understand why she is so vulnerable, she only knows that one beautiful day, she realizes she is no longer herself.
According to Master psychologist Nguyen Thi Lanh - who has accompanied and helped thousands of women change their thinking and develop themselves actively, Ms. Huong's story is not uncommon. The mistake of many women is to be addicted to loving and caring for others, prioritizing everything around them and forgetting that there is an important "one" who needs to be loved and cared for every day, that is themselves.
What is special is that most women do not realize that they are exhausted because they are used to getting a little more. They told themselves: "Retire next week", "When I'm big, I'll be fine", or "Give more to make the family happy". However, that "additional profit" has no stopping point.
Women are taught to be gentle, to endure, to sacrifice. But no one guides women how to love themselves, how to study and develop, and enhance their own value. Like a car that runs continuously without maintenance, it will break down in the middle of the road. The same goes for women's bodies and emotions: if they continue to be exhausted without being refilled, at some point, they fall into what seems very small. A tired mother will easily get angry, a exhausted wife will no longer smile, and a woman who loses herself cannot bring peace to anyone, Ms. Lanh shared.
Women do not need to be superheroes to be loved
There are women who think that loving yourself is selfish, but the truth is completely opposite. self-love is a way for them to stay healthy, balance their emotions, and feel secure enough to love others. Because I only know how to love others properly, when I know how to love myself properly. When Ms. Huong changed, her children were less irritated, her husband took the initiative to share housework, the family atmosphere was lighter. She realized that for a long time, she did not need to " endure" to make her family happy, but needed to learn to "work together".
According to expert Nguyen Thi Lanh, When a woman knows how to take care of herself, she becomes calm, soft and energetic. It is that state that makes the family change in a positive direction. A happy mother makes her children feel secure, a happy wife makes the family warm.
Instead of spending the whole day taking care of her husband and children, taking their children to school, and worrying about keeping their husbands, women should spend time taking care of themselves from appearance: skin, hair, figure... to enriching their souls, mastering their emotions and raising their intelligence to become a woman full of spirit and value.
Remember that the more you focus on your life, the more you love yourself, the happier you will be. To keep the fire for the family, first of all, you must keep the fire for yourself, Ms. Lanh told.
That is probably something every woman needs to remember: family is very important, but she herself also deserves priority. When they learn to come back, know how to listen to their bodies, listen to their emotions and dare to take care of themselves, happiness will return - gentle, lasting and complete. Sometimes, just an afternoon for themselves is enough for them to realize: the strongest woman is not the one who does everything, but the one who knows how to retain a part of her love for herself.
According to Ms. Lanh, self-love is truly a journey to increase inner value: learn, practice healthy thinking, cultivate peace and realize your own value. When a woman understands that she deserves love, they will no longer suffer in silence, will not lose themselves in sacrifice, and will not hurt their own emotions.
And it is at that time that they become an example: children learn to appreciate themselves, families learn to listen and love more. A woman who knows how to love herself will spread positive values, nurture happiness, and preserve the family in the most beautiful way - from within themselves.
