He said: "Since childhood, he has been very good, his academic grades have also been good, and he has been hardworking. However, recently he has been negligent, urgent, and negligent in studying. I went online, went to my child's Facebook page and saw him complaining to you about the pressure to please his parents and almost became depressed, but on the outside, he still tried to seem happy and normal."
I asked him if he knew of a syndrome called duck syndrome. He said, never heard.
At this time, I explained, the duck swimming on the water seems relaxed, but under its feet it has to be stepped repeatedly to be able to float on the water surface. Similarly, our students are facing great pressure to study well, study according to the expectations of their families and schools.
A significant number of parents always have too high expectations for their children. This expectation has many reasons: expectations due to performance pressure and expectations due to aspirations for a better future for children.
First of all, expectations due to performance pressure are quite common, especially among students in urban areas. Most parents want their children to achieve achievements with friends, never letting their children be inferior to their friends.
Many parents are even psychologically influenced by other parents. Every day, they are under pressure from public opinion, whether to argue about which school their children study, which subject, which teacher teaches the best and most prestigious...
Try to think, how can they accept letting their children study at home? Dreams and ambitions to help children grow up later are good ideas. However, in reality, very few parents have a right assessment of what their children are possessing and how much potential their children have.
Most of their children's interests, aspirations, talents, ideals, ambitions... parents do not fully understand. Therefore, parents' expectations go beyond their children's limits, thereby their children are always under pressure. If not relieved in time, the pressure will continue to weigh on the child and negative problems can easily arise.
I can only tell him: Family - the closest place to children - needs to change the way of companionship. Instead of just focusing on the results, parents should listen to their children, respect their choices and encourage comprehensive development. A word of encouragement at the right time can be more valuable than a score of 10".
He calmly nodded, while I thought: Dating syndrome is not just a web term, but is becoming a symbol of the silent instability of students in modern society. Small legs trying to step on water should not continue to swim alone in the pressure flow that adults unintentionally create. It is time for the whole society to look back and act so that students can study happily, grow up in loving companionship - not in fear and silence. That is one of the roots of family culture.
