Just be there when they need to be. We need you at the most difficult times, when everything seems to turn our backs, not just when we party and have fun. A child sometimes only needs a timely hug from his parents when they are torn, a word of encouragement when they stumble. Love is not measured by the number of times it appears, but measured by the sophistication of each moment.
He has a close friend who experienced a big shock in her family during her college years. There were many people coming to comfort her, but she only remembered a friend who sat next to her all night, saying nothing, just listening and giving her a cup of hot tea. That is to love "at the right time": Not many words, but just enough to make the other person see that you are not alone.
But love also needs another art: Knowing when to let go. No parent wants to keep their child with them, but there will come a day when they have to leave. Many father and mother calmly watch their children wrap their luggage away, tears want to fall but their mouths still smile and bless. That is let go at the right time, let go not because of all your love, but because of love that is big enough to put your freedom above your worries.
In love, leaving at the right time requires more courage. Maintaining a broken relationship through holding on and arguing only hurts both of them more. Sometimes, the deepest way to love is to admit that we are no longer the place for the other person to rely on and be brave enough for them to leave. Like a song, there are heavy passages, some are silent and sometimes end in the right place to retain beautiful melodies.
The same goes for friends. There are people who have been with us for a long time, then suddenly change direction. Instead of blaming each other for not being close, we need to understand that each person has a journey. Let them go at the right time so that everyone can live their lives, without resentment, without anger.
The most difficult thing is that we often do not recognize that time. We either feel sorry for the needy too late when they have gone far, or give up too early when the other person still needs a hand to hold. Therefore, living slowly, listening more and putting yourself in the position of the other person is the only way not to miss that golden moment.
shown kindness at the right time, keeping people staying, giving people freedom at the right time. And in both of these actions, if we do it wholeheartedly, we will also keep a peaceful, uncompromising state for ourselves.
Perhaps, maturity is learning to love without possessing, giving up without accident.
