If you put all your identity, self-respect and meaning into work, you will easily fall when you have difficulties at work, I said.
This, ironically, often happens to hard-working, serious and responsible people. They work not only to complete their tasks but also to prove their self-worth. They not only want to achieve work results, but they believe that their human value lies in it. However, this was a double-edged sword.
When work is good, you feel worth it. But when work fails, you easily feel worthless. This is not only a change in feelings, but also a profound change in oneself. A person who is in agreement with his work will easily fall into a state of confusion when facing criticism or failure. They felt that they were not only criticized for their work but also for themselves. When praised, they feel lived but when criticized, they feel exposed.
This is the result of a lack of distance between work and yourself. You are no longer a simple person going to work; you become the main role in that job. But like any role, at some point, that role will be tired and need to be replaced. However, if you don't have anything other than that role, you won't be able to remove it. This makes you exhausted, because you are too caught up in the work.
I told my friend: "If you only have work - no more friends, no more personal time, no more unconditional joy - then when your work goes wrong, you have no place to stand. When he fell into that state, he did not need to quit his job. No need to live a free life. But you need to divide your system, at least into three parts. That is the job: Where he continues to strive. Relationships outside of work: Where you are, be yourself, no need for achievements. And private space: Where he maintains a life does not depend on external evaluation. This system cannot avoid damage, but it will help you not collapse completely when faced with failure.
Therefore, it is important to clearly distinguish between work and life. A person who does many things can still be healthy if they know when they are working and when they are living. When you know how to divide work and life reasonably, you will not only work effectively but also be able to live happily and healthily. Because work is an important part of life, but cannot replace all the other values you need in life.
