Look back at the pressure and remove each knot
Many parents sighed amid the rice and shirt rotation. The feeling of "I'm not good enough" comes to me every time I see my child sleeping, or when I miss a parent meeting. But modern life does not have just one wharf; adults also have to carry everything to keep their family strong. The important thing is not to blame yourself, but to find a way to heal.
Many parents are stuck in expectations of perfection: being both an excellent worker, an exemplary parent, and an emotional machine that is always gentle. The feeling of guilt often comes from the unrealistic standards that society puts on parents, says Dr Rachel Madsen, a family psychologist at the University of Minnesota. It's not how many hours you spend, it's the quality of the connection in the moments you are present.
When the knot of expectations is removed, parents will be less judgmental. A tight hug, an evening of eating together without a rush, or a few minutes of honest conversation... are sometimes worth more than a long day of trying but the mind is disrupted.
Turning limited time into meaningful time
If the time limit is not much, "change the measurement unit" from quantity to quality. Expert Rachel Madsen emphasized: A child feels connected through the eyes of parents looking at them, not through the hours they spend around them. Parents can turn 15 minutes before bedtime into a small suspicion: tell stories, hug your child, ask your child about three things that make you happy during the day. Children will remember the feeling of being listened to, rather than remember the number of minutes.
In addition, parents also need to take care of themselves. An exhausted adult finds it difficult to spread peace to their child. A quiet cup of coffee, a few hours of energy recovery on the weekend, or sharing housework with your partner, small things are the foundation for parents to return to their children in a more complete state.
Finally, remember: children do not need perfect parents. Children need parents to be sincere, know how to love and correct. And sometimes, being honest with your child that parents are busy today, but parents always think about them is the most subtle gift of cohesion.
